Why Celebrate Someone’s Demise & Not Their Presence

The untimely death of Priscilla Opoku-Kwarteng (16 February 1997 – 8 February 2018), known by her stage name – Ebony, has left the Ghanaian entertainment industry in shock. It has not affected Ghana but Africa in the sense that a very talented uncensored promising dancehall/Afrobeats artist known for her hit songs “Poison” and “Kupe” is now late, given the circumstances surrounding her automobile accident, that also claimed the lives of two other people Franky Kury – Close Friend and PA and Francis Atsu Vondee Friend and Body Guard.

Late – Ebony Reigns

Ebony started her education at Seven Great Princess Academy in Dansoman, Accra followed by a high school education at Methodist Girls High School at Mamfe in the Akuapim North District of the Eastern Region, Ghana, though she did not graduate, she quit high school in pursuit of her music career.

Ebony Reigns (The Artist)

In light of Ebony’s passing, there has been numerous social media tributes from her fans and loved ones, however some outspoken criticism has come from some African celebrities who possibly have endured the ongoing hypocrisy when an African celebrity or should I say black entertainer passes away.

Ebony Reigns Forever

Few excerpts below from bold African celebrities such as Moesha Bodoung, Makafui Fella and most recently Wife of late Gospel Singer Eric Arubayi (Chinonso Arubayi) who made a moving, emotional, true statement months after her Husband passed away on the 10th February 2017 from a brief illness, addressing the hypocrisy around love shown after death.

 

Actress & Model – Moesha Babiinoti Boduong

Moesha Babiinoti Boduong –
“Never knew Ghanaians loved you this much till now Ebony! Guys for crying out loud, lets learn to appreciate people enough while they live looking beyond their ‘inadequacies’ smh. I am going to miss you Ebony💔💔. Rest In Power!”

 

Actress & Philantropist – Makafui Fella

Makafui Fella –
“And then i see same people that criticised you ,same people that never loved you ,same people that said all sought of negative things about you posting you here and there … How i wish they could have done same for you when you were alive .How i wish they could have supported you this way , how i wish they couldn’t have judged you .. I remember we both spoke about this and i told you not to give a F*k but just be you and be different.. How i wish you could see how you been celebrated atm.. Eeeiii so we could do this for the dead ??? We could actually post like this ?? Never knew she was loved this much !!!
I complained vividly last year about how we dont support and congratulate people when they do good ,most of the news you read is either about rumours about someone or negative stories.. People are impacting lives ,people are doing positive stuffs but yet you will hardly see the media talk about such !!!! But why though ?? Why ??? You have won awards ,never saw anyone posted about it but your death was news yesterday !!!! You wont celebrate people when they’re alive , you wont support them,you wont congratulate people when they do good,you wont motivate them to do better … i think its high time we stop all these … all we focused on was her dressing bla bla bla .. we cant deny it ,she was a Queen with soo much talent !!! I know wherever you are ,you are resting well .. You know i love you .. Rest well Bestiee”

 

Entrepreneur & Vlogger – Chinonso Arubayi

Chinonso Arubayi (Wife of Late Gospel Singer Eric Arubayi) –
“My house was about to be locked, just because I was not able to raise rent. I posted it on Facebook seeking for help, but all I got was 2likes and 0comments.
So I sent 120 messages to friends on my contact list, requesting for a loan of N400,000. Sadly, only 10people replied. 6 out of the 10 claimed they couldn’t help. Only 1 out of the 4 who said they could help actually gave me some money but the rest only gave me excuses and never picked my calls. Eventually, my house was locked. I had no where to sleep. I walked in the dark, seeking options and suddenly, a heavy storm carried me away and I died. *Fast forward*
The next day, news quickly spread around that I had died. 2220 people posted on my wall how they knew me. How great I was. A committee is formed by my “loyal” friends who quickly raised N1,200,000 via donations, to feed guests at my funeral. My colleagues at work teamed-up and brought another N300,000 for coffin, tents and chairs. I am buried in a coffin worth N100,000.
My relatives who rarely met, met, for my send-off and contributed an extra N150,000. Everyone wants to volunteer in order to appear they are helping out. The Youth also, printed T-shirts with my image, each T-Shirt costing N1,500. About 600 youths paid, so the T-shirt man makes N150,000 profit from my death. Everyone wants to speak at my funeral.
There was drama all over from people who never knew how I survived. There was rumour that I was murdered by my friends. Also people falsely accused my successful relatives of sacrificing me. Wonderful speeches were made on how talented I was even those who never attended my events. The few friends who supported me in life didn’t get the chance to speak during my funeral although they knew the Truth. Infact, they were the prime suspects in my death. *Moral;* Don’t show people love when they are gone. Show love to people while they are alive, so that they can appreciate you… Call people when they can pick your call not when they are gone and you pretend by shedding crocodile tears when infact they can not hear you… #DeepTruth That Hurts. -Choose to be different:
Show love to the living.
Love your neighbour and be your bro”

Bloggers point of view:
Whatever it may be, the fact of the matter is that we should show love to everyone, especially those who are striving hard to make it in various talents they use to uplift themselves and their loved ones. The love can come in different ways and not just through social media. Showing love when someone has died makes no sense in the sense that it is of no use to the person at the one of their death. Some have suggested that the love shown when someone has passed away is a strategy to gain publicity which should be the most embarrassing strategy anyone can use in life. Ebony is now more popular than she was when she was alive. Her videos are now circulating now more than they ever did. The same goes for Eric immediately after his death, the celebrities took to Instagram fingers speaking about how great he was, whereas when he was alive the support for his upcoming music career was little to nothing. This is a negative trend that needs to change before any productive existence in our hidden talents become public.

Show love and support people’s work whilst they are alive and NOT when they are dead!

Written by Ikenna Obi (2018).

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